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The most complex and insidious traits that tend to remain hidden in daily dealings, rise to the surface in these very financial matters. If you spot these behavior patterns in your partner, understand how these could impact your life and finances after marriage.
They say opposites attract. But pick a few instances from your personal life itself and you will know that that's not exactly the case, at least not always. Even if you are understanding enough to let your partner retain his/her ways of dealing with finances in the relationship, you may still expect a certain degree of compromise between the two of you such that both have an equal say in money matters, even if your stands are not identical. But how far do you go before you arrive at that settlement? Do you keep ignoring signs which in fact must not be ignored?
It can be argued that since the root of most financial conflicts lies in the person’s psyche, a near-perfect personality match can help avoid unpleasant situations. However, the most complex and insidious traits that tend to remain hidden in daily dealings, rise to the surface in these very financial matters. If you spot these behavior patterns in your partner, understand how these could impact your life and finances after marriage.
1. “She expects gifts all the time...”
If your income does not allow you to give frequent and expensive gifts, don’t. If you live beyond your means and upset your budget, you will fail to save. Borrowing could lead to a debt trap or failure to meet your goals. If your partner does not understand this, try to explain. If she still refuses to understand and it means breaking up with her, do it.
2. “He brags about family wealth…”
If your partner is rubbing his affluence in your face, he may have low confidence in his own skills and it could translate to stunted career growth. A more direct impact could be his financial dependence on his parents, which could result in restrictions for the woman later on.
3. “She doesn’t ask before using my credit card…”
Using a partner’s credit card to make transactions without permission not only indicates impropriety but also hints at a future where the partner spends recklessly or prefers financial dependence to contribute towards the household income.
4. “He looks down on my spending choices…”
Beware a partner who criticizes your purchases or financial decisions, for he either seeks an upper hand in the relationship or is insecure about his own finances and decisions. Remember, money problems are often indicative of deeper psychological issues in a person.
5. “He takes advantage of my official position…”
If a partner is exploiting your position for his benefit, it’s best to leave him. He not only sees you as a cash cow but is untrustworthy and could leave you in the lurch during a crisis. There’s also a probability that his own career is uninspiring and may not see much growth.